I’m grateful for the question. I am thankful for people who ask, who care, and really want to know the answer.
But is it okay to just come out and say that life is really hard?
I was recently talking with someone about Amy’s health challenges. We discussed all the complications and effects of Amy’s Hashimoto’s Disease, Palindromic Reheumatism, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, Urticaria, Lipo-Lymphedema and the Insulin Resistance she deals with every day.
They asked how I was doing, in the midst of it all. Which is kind of like asking, “Other than that, Mrs. Lincoln, how was the play?”
When we add Cooper’s Alopecia Areata, Colitis, and Urticaria on top of it all, our house can tend to feel more like a hospital than a home. These diseases seem to work their way into every part of our lives. Cooper is home sick from school right now as I write this. He usually misses at least one morning of school every week.
Sick people complicate life. For instance, Amy is on an Anti-Autoimmune Diet. This means:
NO grains (including corn)
NO legumes (i.e. beans)
NO nightshades (i.e. potatoes, tomatoes, peppers)
NO nuts or seeds
What’s left, you ask? Well, not much, when you live in modern America. Amy can have organic meat, vegetables (except those listed above) and non-sugary fruit. So Amy spends her days preparing kale salads, and working out, and in the infrared sauna, and in physical therapy, and seeing doctors and buying supplements.
And even with this extreme diet and lifestyle, the going is tough. For example, Amy has had severe hives the last eight weeks (her autoimmune system attacking her skin) all over her body. Her legs look like she has leprosy. She said she was going crazy and wanted to throw herself in front of a bus. I suggested heavy medication as an alternative. But the side effects from that has ranged from grogginess to panic attacks to hyperventilating from crying.
So we’re still expectantly asking the Lord for healing. We pray for healing every day, and look to Him. We celebrate any progress, and endure through the rest.
So, back to your question, “How’s Amy doing?” Honestly? Not great. She has chronic illnesses, and they’re definitely chronic. But we eagerly look forward to healing if the Lord chooses to bless us in that way. And if not, Heaven is going to be AMAZING.
Did this post depress you? Sorry. Am I complaining? I don’t think so. I hope I’m just confronting the brutal facts. Am I jealous of people whose lives seem to be so easy compared to ours? Maybe a little. So let me close with some Scripture–which is a critical way I draw support, strength and focus from God: “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.” (2 Corinthians 1:3).
Comfort only exists in the context of trouble. And in this world we will have trouble. But we can take heart not in the fact that all our troubles will be removed, but in the fact that Jesus has overcome the world.